Have you ever gotten a phone call from a friend, and answered it joyfully because it was your friend, and then been completely sideswiped by them telling you bad news? That’s happened to me twice in the last two months. You could kind of say three times, but the third one I pretty much knew was going to be bad news. The first one was my friend J telling me that her mom had passed away unexpectedly. The last one was our beloved Bass Girl, telling me the same thing. J’s mom dying was a shock, but it wasn’t as much of a shock as Bass Girl’s mom. Her mom was only about 49 years old. She wasn’t in the hospital having surgery. She hadn’t been in the hospital. There was no warning. Nothing. Just a phone call that completely turns the world upside down. And changes everything.
It’s hard enough to understand that Bass Girl has lost her mom at 26 years old, but I think the thing that people have felt over and over again is heartbreak for Bass Girl’s youngest sister who is set to graduate from high school at the end of the month. It is just killing me to think that this time that should be so happy and so joyful is now a time of mourning for a mother that shouldn’t have been taken away so suddenly.
And I’m not going to lie. I’m a little angry at God right now. If He had to take her at all, why couldn’t he have waited until after her daughter graduated? Why did it have to be today? Just why?
I’m heartbroken for the whole family, for Bass Girl and her husband, for her three sisters, for her grandmother, for her dad. I am thankful for them that they were all able to be together yesterday, on Mother’s Day. That no one has to feel guilty for not being there. They were all there with her and I imagine it was a happy day of being together. That is a blessing.
And I guess that’s all you can do when someone dies, especially so unexpectedly, is to look for those small blessings. There is so much about this that is sad, so much. And there are many reasons we can be angry when we lose a loved one or we see a friend lose a loved one. And I guess the only way we can get through these times is to look for the blessings. To remember the joy. And to search for the peace. It will take time to find it, but it will come.
And Bass Girl, if you read this, please know that I love you. We all do. And we’re here for you, no matter what. Just call and we will answer. ♥