Thursday Thirteen - The Venting Edition (You have been warned!)
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For a non-venting post, please scroll down and read my tribute to the 75th anniversary of my mother’s birth. 1. My father called this morning as he usually does on Thursdays. 2. He asked me a favor - that if I sent mail to their house (other than birthday cards) to please put both of their names on it because when I don’t he “hears about it”. 3. I used to do that even after she who shall not be named started being horrible to me. 4. But then I found out she who shall not be named would put whatever I sent them for Christmas or whatever holiday (fruit basket, plant, etc.) in the garage because it was from me. 5. So at that point I decided if she who shall not be named didn’t want anything to do with my efforts at being nice, I wouldn’t bother putting her name on them anymore. 6. Then came the day my daughter was born 8 weeks early by emergency c-section because I was bleeding. 7. Which means both of us could have not made it. 8. My husband called my father’s house to tell him about his granddaughter. 9. She who shall not be named answered the telephone. 10. When Mike asked to speak to my father because I’d had the baby, she who shall not be named hung up on him. He called back and left one or two messages. I called and left a couple of messages. My father never received the messages. 11. To me that was the last straw. She who shall not be named burned the last bridge and I was done with any effort at all at trying to be nice or even just civil. 12. Especially since the only reason he found out about the baby (TWO DAYS AFTER SHE WAS BORN) was because my aunt called and he happened to answer the phone. 13. After that, I determined that I was erasing she who shall not be named from my life and would never have another thing to do with her. So no, I will not be adding her name to anything I send to their house. Besides, since none of us are welcomed there, why should my mail include her? Links to other Thursday Thirteens! |
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Comment by Theresa
December 29, 2005 @ 8:09 pm
Ya know, that woman makes ME angry! It’s not as if she really cares that her name is on the envelope. It’s just another way to try to stick it to you, to try to cause trouble. I don’t blame you at all for refusing to go along with it.
Comment by Charity
December 29, 2005 @ 10:43 pm
You go girl!!! I thought I had it bad! I was going to write that you could bring “she who shall not be named” here to GA where no one would find the body, but that would be ugly of me, and I am trying to be nice today!
Comment by Shannon
December 30, 2005 @ 10:47 am
I haven’t read your journal very long but WOW! That woman makes me angry for you. Does that make sense?
I have never understood why a 2nd wife would be jealous of her husband’s children. Of course I don’t know if that is the case here but there is still no reason to be so mean, nasty, and hateful.
Good for you in sticking to your guns.
Comment by Angel
December 30, 2005 @ 10:50 pm
((((Karin))))) I can’t believe anyone could be so hateful (and esp. towards someone as nice as you!)
Comment by Renee
December 31, 2005 @ 12:28 am
Well my comment is pretty catty… I would address the mail to:
Mr & bitch Daddy dearest
But I don’t suppose that will work at mending anything, will it?
Hummm… this Voldemort type person insists on not passing along messages and throwing out mail from you and yet she insists on having her name added to mail from you??? Sounds sick and twisted… what is her problem???
Here’s an idea… tell dad to have Voldemort ask you nicely to include her name on holiday greetings. Why should you have to do all the work?
Comment by Green-Eyed Lady (GEL)
January 4, 2006 @ 12:44 am
I’m crying because I know exactly how you feel. I wish no other human being was treated this way. I often here from my friends “it’s their loss” but the ache will forever remain, even deeper than the anger. Similar happened to me when my oldest was born. (She’s now a teen.) The chasms have deepened despite counseling, despite reason, and the effect on my daughters hurts me the most. Hugs to you.